Therapists have a choice throughout a couples session to focus on the positive or the negative. Most therapists, as I indicated above, will constantly focus on the problems, arguments, conflicts in the relationship. While these things can’t be neglected, the underlying basis for the relationship cannot be lost either. It is critical that your couples therapist focuses on the things that bring you together and give you motivation to have the hard conversations with each other. The underlying love and yearning for closeness should always have a central place in couples therapy so that the more contentious issues can be resolved without overwhelming either of you.
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